חִתּוּן

Through forceful prayer, one merits their mate (9). The fact that the bride sends a tallit to the groom has a great reason according to the Torah of truth. Similarly, the fact that they proclaim on Shabbat and say humorous words (called gramin), all of this pertains that they proclaim on Shabbat and say humorous words (called gramin), all of this pertains to the wedding according to the truth [see Likutay Moharan, Part I, section 49 at the end]. See also elsewhere regarding all the things done at the wedding: covering the bride, throwing baked goods at the groom, the groom giving a Torah discourse and being compensated for the discourse and given gifts for it, and also the jesters turning themselves about, etc.—all of this is from G-d. Wonderful reasons for these are explained there, and there is no place to elaborate here (Sefer HaRan 86).

Through the dances of a wedding, judgments are sweetened (32). Through praise and thanksgiving to the Blessed Name and through studying halachot, one merits to find their true mate, for all those who need to find their mate (Part II, 2).

Through a blemish of the covenant, it is difficult to find one’s mate, and the intentions of Elul are a rectification for this [see Elul] (87).

One who cannot find their mate, the rectification for this is to strive to hear Torah innovations from a person of understanding (89).

By breaking a clay vessel at the time of the engagement, they hint to the person and remind them that there is Gehinnom, so that they will remember this and not be swayed by their desires, and will sanctify themselves in their marriage as is proper. They also hint to them that if she is a bad wife, he should not betray her or divorce her, for through her, he does not see the face of Gehinnom. For one must be very careful not to divorce their wife [see further regarding the breaking of a clay vessel in Likutay Moharan, Part I, section 60:8 and section 265] (90).